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Separating, splitting up, divorce; they are some of the hardest words to face. Most people don’t opt for separation easily. It’s often a complex choice. When staying or going both seem difficult, and it’s hard to see a positive way forward.
As partners you can separate or divorce. As parents, you have a job for life. When you have kids together your relationship with each other never really ends, it changes. You need to keep your parenting relationship alive and constructive, even when dealing with each other hurts. It might be a huge challenge. It’s also one of the best gifts you can give your kids.
There are some articles here for parents who are separating that focus on some of the issues for children.
Separation isn’t a decision most people take lightly. Doing it well can be a significant challenge. Here are some ideas about how you might manage this.
Being left can be shocking and very painful. Sometimes its especially hard for men.
If you are separating, its probably tough. So making use if all the support you can get makes sense.
No Longer Partners, But Still Parents
When you’re feeling miserable about your separation it can be really hard to keep up your role as parent. Getting good support for yourself is important. Keeping the kid’s perspective in mind can be useful as well.
When Parents Separate: Through Children’s Eyes
Getting your kid’s perspective on how their family has changed will give you a better chance of supporting them. The better they survive your separation, the better you will feel.